If you are looking to start talking to a girl you will need to make sure you’ve got good communication skills. There is nothing worse for a girl than when a man walks up and is poor at talking to her.
Developing communication skills is actually quite simple to do once you get the basics down. A few practice sessions and you will soon start talking to people in ways you could have only dreamed about. Not only that, as you start being a good communicator, you’ll find that other areas of your life open up, not just your love life.
Effective communication is what enables you to move on in your life. You can effectively discuss important matters with your boss, legal issues and disputes. Suddenly you become the go-to guy for sticky situations.
When it comes to the art of talking to girls, dating and meeting new people, good communication skills are a simple “must-have”.
Many men will never understand how they come across when talking to girls. They may come across as too arrogant or the complete opposite – shy and inward. Communicating properly starts with feeling confident. Feeling like you are the best thing to happen to the girl and if she doesn’t like it then she can go look elsewhere.
You often see those men who seem to get the most incredible girls to talk to them, and have success with them. This is all down to them being confident, and having excellent communication skills. They have simply mastered the art of good old fashioned conversation. This involves eye contact, not fidgeting and being decisive.
Girls tend to be drawn to confident men as this offers them the feeling of protection and safety. If you are a shy guy then you can improve your confidence by improving your verbal communication skills.
While many may argue this point, the fact is that somewhere subconsciously this is wired into a woman’s brain, and this goes back thousands of years when hunters went out to find meat and returned home to protect their families.
Can you imagine having to get up and speak in front of a few thousand people. If you came across as shy on the stage your audience would quickly pick up on this. It’s just the same on a date. If you come across as shy and not confident your date will pick up on this.
So the key is to learn how to attain good communication skills that will last you a lifetime and impact on every area of your life. This can only be a good thing as your life will see measured improvements in many areas of it, and who can say no to that?
Statistics prove that 85% of our success in life is directly attributable to our communication skills. What does this mean? It means that even if you are the most ambitious person on the planet you will invariably fall down time and time again once you need to employ good communication skills.
Imagine you have an idea for a new invention. You’ve spent 10 years developing it and it’s a sure fire winner. You go to pitch it to investors, yet they decline the offer all because you couldn’t speak confidently and clearly about it.
It’s the same when talking to a girl. You may be the most sincere, genuine and loving man around and be able to give her everything she wants, but if she cannot sit down and enjoy a deep heart-felt conversation with you, she is going to feel bored and frustrated.
Even the famous Tony Robbins (Life Coach) said:
“The quality of your life is the quality of your communication.”
So in order to move forward in life, and talking beyond your normal circle of friends, your communication skills will be the critical factor in how successful you are. You really do need to start looking at developing communication skills that will carry you through the rest of your life.
Paul J Meyer quoted:
“Communication – the human connection – is the key to personal and career success.”
The person who possesses good communication skills is the person who possesses a lot of the following 14 traits.
1. Listen attentively to everything they say
2. Reveal as much about yourself as you can
3. Tell them what you like about them, and why
4. Give them just the right amount of eye contact
5. Adapt to their body language and feelings
6. Make them feel you are enthusiastic about talking to them
7. Give them your best smile
8. Offer helpful suggestions
9. Let them know you are on the same team
10. Say their name in a way that is pleasing to their ears
11. Give them encouragement
12. Appear to have that little bit more of an energy level than them
13. Offer to take the relationship a step further
14. Ask open-ended questions about their interests.
Ultimately this means that if you are a good listener, show genuine interest in the other person, be positive and enthusiastic about the whole experience it will go a long way. So forget the “cheesy talk”, be that confident person, or pretend as though you are and become the person you’ve always wanted to be. Good communication is the key to success in life. Go grab some life and enjoy every minute.